Are We Wired to People Please?

This article explores the concept of people pleasing, its signs, reasons behind it, and how it can negatively impact your life. It also provides insights on how to overcome this behavior and prioritize your own needs.

When Others Judge Us

I’ve been thinking a lot about decisions. Big ones. The kinds that open you up to all sorts of criticisms. These big decisions have one huge hurdle in common: they bring us face to face with others’ judgements.

But are they really others’ judgement or are they coming from somewhere closer to home?

The Real Reason You’re Exhausted

Do you ever have those days when you come home and you are just completely mentally and physically exhausted? Like this exhaustion is just there hovering around you like a dark fog and despite getting enough sleep and not being overly stressed, you can’t seem to shake it?!

The cause behind that exhaustion may surprise you.

Shame and Public Failures

It is not uncommon in coaching to work through big decisions One of the reasons some decisions seem so impossible is because there are some choices in life that feel like they put us on a stage for public shaming and ridicule. So how do we navigate the court of public opinion and make decisions when it feels terrifying?

Crying It Out

There seems to be a general trend that experiencing emotions is not permitted especially among female professionals. That being emotional is a sign of weakness. It’s understandable that we don’t want to break down in tears at the office but what are you doing with those emotions once you leave for the day and does it matter?

Manifesting

While it is easy to let our calendar and practice run away from us and fill our days with myriad activities and to-do list items, a full calendar does not necessarily mean we’re operating with our overreaching priorities in mind. Instead a full calendar simply requires us to show up and execute without much thought behind it. Today we explore practical tips to focus your energy and take control of your days.

Making it Happen

All things are yin and yang and there are always going to be things that we simply don’t want to do. It is during those moments when we can rise up as fully grown humans and accept that even when there are things we don’t want to do, we must simply accept that part of life and proceed anyway.

Being a Good Leader

As lawyers we often sign up for chaos. Many of us thrive in it. But here’s the thing about chaos: chaos, like all parts of life, provides us an opportunity to learn and evolve and do the chaos better next time. Unfortunately, many of us just want to enjoy the end of the chaos and be thankful we survived. We regroup and brace for the next round. But in that regrouping there is also an opportunity to debrief and make the next round of chaos much less painful.

To Partnership or Not?

As women and as attorneys we are really good at following instructions. We received a guidebook on how to become a successful attorney and we executed all of the steps. The LSAT, law school, the bar exam, the clerkships, the summer associate programs, the first big job. The next ingredient in this perceived recipe for success is a big one: to make partner or not to make partner?

Overloaded and Angry

As a coach and practicing attorney, I am no stranger to being annoyed by other humans. Recently, I found myself dreading a particular meeting that was planted right in the middle of my afternoon. Through a series of events, I learned to appreciate small irritations and approach them in a way that not only gave me peace but freedom and a greater understanding of myself.