When Others Judge Us

I’ve been thinking a lot about decisions. Big ones. The kinds that open you up to all sorts of criticisms. These big decisions have one huge hurdle in common: they bring us face to face with others’ judgements.

But are they really others’ judgement or are they coming from somewhere closer to home?

Shame and Public Failures

It is not uncommon in coaching to work through big decisions One of the reasons some decisions seem so impossible is because there are some choices in life that feel like they put us on a stage for public shaming and ridicule. So how do we navigate the court of public opinion and make decisions when it feels terrifying?

Feeling Stuck

There are all these rules about how we are supposed to live and how things are supposed to work out and many of us wholeheartedly believe these rules and it is keeping us stagnant. How to get unstuck and open to new possibilities.

Difficult Choices

In every moment, of every day, we are making decisions. We decide where to direct our attention, we decide when (if) we should take a break, we decide whether to answer phone calls or respond to emails. Most of us make those decisions automatically, without much thought. But what about the decisions that really FEEL like decisions? The types of decisions that keep you up at night with anxiety or rob your afternoon of several hours spent fretting over the options. When it comes to big decisions, what is the best approach?

Putting Out Fires

When you find yourself in that panicked mode of productivity and you are running around putting out fires, everything can feel like an emergency. Why living in this kind of fight or flight will only lead to disaster and how to snap out of it.

Trouble Being Still?

Many attorneys come to me for coaching support because they don’t know what to do next. They are overwhelmed with the possibilities for their life and they want to know how to figure out where to focus their energies now that they have come so far. In those crossroad moments, there is one very important question to ask yourself.

The Career or the Family?

I can’t have a family and practice law. This type of thinking is common for many women seeking their place in the legal industry. We are often surrounded by women who seemingly sacrifice everything to find success. But what if you didn’t have to choose? What if you could have both?

Timelines

Practicing law, like all professions, will certainly come with its own unique decisions to be made: partnership, other opportunities, solo practice. How to know if you are running out of time to make important decisions.

Being On Call 24/7

Every time we answer late night phone calls and emails, we are expressing our values not only to ourselves but those around us. In that expression, others will learn to anticipate where they fall on your hierarchy of values. If they are at the top, they will keep coming at you 24/7. How to deal.